I have to keep this blog real. I have been sharing all the good and fun times we have, so I guess I should share today. Let's put something out on the table right away. I am SURE I am PMSing. My poor hubby and kids have to deal with me today.
I woke up feeling I just wanted to crawl out of my skin. I didn't want to do much of anything, but maybe sleep but even that made me uncomfortable knowing that my kids would be done with their copy work (For homeschooling) and it would be spotlight time on mom. Time to homeschool. This was the start of my grumpiness.
Last night I told my husband my order for today. He asked, "Mi Reina." is there anything special that you would like to eat tomorrow? Yes! I said.. Cabbage! Cabbage and eggs, we haven't had that in quite a few days. (Yes, I said days.. My sister in-law taught me and my maid how to make Cabbage and eggs about 6 weeks ago and we have been having it every few days cause we all love it.. Ok, Cause I'm addicted.. ) I also told him I'd like to get some chicken too. He said Ok, I will purchase chicken in the morning, and cabbage is there anything else I can buy? No, we hugged, kissed, and giggled together like we always do.
My husband is a morning person, and I am not. He likes to go to sleep earlier than me, and loves to get up early. In the morning he fills our water tank with water, and goes to the deli which is right in our complex not far at all. He gets the girls their orange juice,and whatever they want to eat for breakfast. It's like his daily routine. He loves to do it. Then he comes home and spends hours praying. I kid you not, my husband is a prayer warrior!
Long story short I got grumpy when we went to our local store today. I had to buy printer paper, and milk. He backs into the parking spot, and it takes him FOREVER to turn off the car. I get cranky because I have to WAIT for him to close his door before I can lock the car doors. They only lock from my side. So the kids get out, and he is still waiting in his seat looking at me. I'm like.. GO!!! That was his first realization that I was PMSing. He got out of the car, grabbed the two younger girls hands, and walked inside behind me and Lidia.
Then I got home, and we went to eat our "lunch" when I realized there was no Cabbage. Oh my goodness you would think the world was coming to an end. Oh my goodness!! "Why didn't she make my cabbage." now he does a classic. I know he's shuddering in his pants. "What? There's no cabbage? He looks in the fridge and makes a nice show of hrmmm.. Why didn't she make Cabbage?" And says.. "I'm not sure why she didn't make it! I will buy it tomorrow!"
"WHAT?! You didn't buy Cabbage?!" and I stare at him.
"No, I forgot." he said..
That's when I wanted to tear his head off.. I wanted my cabbage!! What I WANTED to do, and what I did were two different things!! I didn't tear his head off. I realized I was being very nasty at this moment, and said to myself "Lord, give me strength, this is a GOOD man the last thing I want to do is make him feel bad."
We all know that with our words we can tear people apart. I knew when I woke up that I was feeling restless and wanted to crawl out of my skin. I realized when I grabbed a candy bar at the store that it was definitely PMS time. And the last thing I want to do is hurt my husband. Let's face it, God has blessed me with a wonderful man. I would love for God to make me a blessing for this man!
I grabbed a hold of my husband, and hugged him, and kissed him. My daughter was like.. But mom, you don't have your cabbage? You don't care?! I said "No, I have a man who made a mistake and his love is MUCH more important than any cabbage."
We hugged and kissed. He has a thing he always does in front of the kids as a joke. He grabs the closest object and covers our face as he kisses me. My kids will always say.. "I saw!" even though they didn't.. It's ok if they see. I want them to see that it's good to be loved.
I love this man! Even when I am mean, angry, and PMSing he loves me!! <3 <3 <3
Friday, May 31, 2013
Tuesday, May 28, 2013
Gymnastic Practice
So my two younger girls are enrolled in gymnastics. They love it. They have way too much fun there, and they go 3x's a week. The days they don't go, they practice at home with hubby. Did you know that my hubby used to take gymnastics? Yep! Remember he can do just about anything!!
He always tells the kids that he can do anything. If they can do it.. Hey what do you think? Of course I can, he says!! hahaha..
So we get home and boom my kids want to take the extra mattress we have and practice gymnastics. We pull it out and Papito gets down on his knee and starts to spot them as they back bend over his knee and he helps them kick their legs over. He begins coaching them how to do it when they then say... If you know how to do it. Show us!! He says.. Hey come on now, of course, Papito knows how to do it. I am the Princess, remember? (The kids started calling him the Princess since they met him. They are the Queens and he is the Princess..." We all laugh over it..
So Papito steps up onto the mattress puts his arms up over his hands... And realizes, wait I am way too old to do this.. So I go, here I will spot you.. I go to grab his waist but he is so ticklish, he falls backwards. He jumps up and says.. I know what we can do.. Goes into the kitchen comes out with the mop, and my maid. "Here you hold this side he says to her, and you hold this side he says to me. He then tries to backbend over the mop. We die with laughter that we end up dropping him onto the mattress. We are now all rolling in laughter. He says.. Don't laugh, I've got this! I used to practice gymnastics! I can do this! He goes into the bathroom, and this is what he comes out with!!
So he goes into the bedroom, grabs a pillow and a belt and straps the pillow onto his back. He said the stick was hurting his back but now he was ready. HAHAHA I couldn't even keep the camera from shaking, I was laughing so hard, I don't know how any of us could keep a straight face. I am sure I burned 1,000 calories that day from laughing so hard!!!
Here is the princess giving orders, who needs to stand where, and how they are going to hold the stick..
And here they go.. going to hold the mop so that he doesn't fall. lol.. He's telling them, to slowly lower it, and if his hands aren't reaching the mat to let it go!!! hahaha.. Long story short, he never was able to do a backbend, and of COURSE it was not because he "can't" do them, it was that the "help" lacked and it was all our fault cause we didn't know how to hold the mop!!
THIS IS WHY I LOVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!! hehehehehe <3 So In-Love
He always tells the kids that he can do anything. If they can do it.. Hey what do you think? Of course I can, he says!! hahaha..
So we get home and boom my kids want to take the extra mattress we have and practice gymnastics. We pull it out and Papito gets down on his knee and starts to spot them as they back bend over his knee and he helps them kick their legs over. He begins coaching them how to do it when they then say... If you know how to do it. Show us!! He says.. Hey come on now, of course, Papito knows how to do it. I am the Princess, remember? (The kids started calling him the Princess since they met him. They are the Queens and he is the Princess..." We all laugh over it..
So Papito steps up onto the mattress puts his arms up over his hands... And realizes, wait I am way too old to do this.. So I go, here I will spot you.. I go to grab his waist but he is so ticklish, he falls backwards. He jumps up and says.. I know what we can do.. Goes into the kitchen comes out with the mop, and my maid. "Here you hold this side he says to her, and you hold this side he says to me. He then tries to backbend over the mop. We die with laughter that we end up dropping him onto the mattress. We are now all rolling in laughter. He says.. Don't laugh, I've got this! I used to practice gymnastics! I can do this! He goes into the bathroom, and this is what he comes out with!!
Here is the princess giving orders, who needs to stand where, and how they are going to hold the stick..
THIS IS WHY I LOVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!! hehehehehe <3 So In-Love
Sunday, May 26, 2013
So sick of it!!!
I am so sick of it... I am so in-love with this man that I make myself sick. lol
Today is mother's day here in the Dominican Republic. The one thing I noticed about my husband is that he is definitely a husband in training. He has never had a family. H has never even had a girlfriend for any long time so this is all new to him, but wow. He's truly learning. The cool thing is he is molding to me. However I dreamed of things, all I have to do is tell him.
When we first got married I was like. Oh no, I'm going to be one of those women who complain that their husbands leave the toilet seat up. I was so bothered by it. I decided to tell him. Look we are a house full of women, and I even have trained my son to NOT leave the toilet seat up. At first he smiled and said.. "Well I have always kept it up." with that I thought I was in trouble. He then said he would try to remember to always put the seat down. This is the dream I am living, I have NEVER found it up again!!
One thing that my husband is learning about is special dates. I thought he had it down pat as we had married on a Thursday and since we married he's been counting the weeks of how long we've been married. Put it this way, we just celebrated our 14th Thursday!! :) I usually get a Happy Anniversary My sweetie, and a kiss. I always giggle like a school girl cause he's so funny.
My husband HATES birthdays so funny that he actually remembers our anniversary the way he does.
I realized that today he didn't realize that its a day to celebrate me being a mother. He thought about his mother, but it was almost just a habit. You would laugh if you ever heard him talking to his mother. "Hello, my beautiful mother! How is it going for you on this beautiful day? Mom, thank you for everything you've ever did for me. The hard work you put forth for me, mom I need to tell you how much you mean to me every day, but because I don't get to talk to you each day I'd like to tell you today on this special day that you are the world to me, and I love you. Thank your for making me all that I am today. If it wasn't for you, my mother, I would have not found this perfect wife.
He made me laugh and blush that I had to walk away. He loves telling everyone how beautiful, intelligent, and what a good person I am. He makes me laugh. He's so good to me.
I figure if I can think of something REALLY special for fathers day, I can do for him, I am sure that my next mother's day will be special. :)
I got beautiful cards from my kids, hugs, kisses, and loving from them. We sat around and talked about funny things that happened in our past, and just enjoyed eachother until I had to start my college homework. My kids are awesome!
We skipped our bible verse tonight cause I'm behind in my college work, but we will make up for it tomorrow. My kids are doing great with the bible.
Today is mother's day here in the Dominican Republic. The one thing I noticed about my husband is that he is definitely a husband in training. He has never had a family. H has never even had a girlfriend for any long time so this is all new to him, but wow. He's truly learning. The cool thing is he is molding to me. However I dreamed of things, all I have to do is tell him.
When we first got married I was like. Oh no, I'm going to be one of those women who complain that their husbands leave the toilet seat up. I was so bothered by it. I decided to tell him. Look we are a house full of women, and I even have trained my son to NOT leave the toilet seat up. At first he smiled and said.. "Well I have always kept it up." with that I thought I was in trouble. He then said he would try to remember to always put the seat down. This is the dream I am living, I have NEVER found it up again!!
One thing that my husband is learning about is special dates. I thought he had it down pat as we had married on a Thursday and since we married he's been counting the weeks of how long we've been married. Put it this way, we just celebrated our 14th Thursday!! :) I usually get a Happy Anniversary My sweetie, and a kiss. I always giggle like a school girl cause he's so funny.
My husband HATES birthdays so funny that he actually remembers our anniversary the way he does.
I realized that today he didn't realize that its a day to celebrate me being a mother. He thought about his mother, but it was almost just a habit. You would laugh if you ever heard him talking to his mother. "Hello, my beautiful mother! How is it going for you on this beautiful day? Mom, thank you for everything you've ever did for me. The hard work you put forth for me, mom I need to tell you how much you mean to me every day, but because I don't get to talk to you each day I'd like to tell you today on this special day that you are the world to me, and I love you. Thank your for making me all that I am today. If it wasn't for you, my mother, I would have not found this perfect wife.
He made me laugh and blush that I had to walk away. He loves telling everyone how beautiful, intelligent, and what a good person I am. He makes me laugh. He's so good to me.
I figure if I can think of something REALLY special for fathers day, I can do for him, I am sure that my next mother's day will be special. :)
I got beautiful cards from my kids, hugs, kisses, and loving from them. We sat around and talked about funny things that happened in our past, and just enjoyed eachother until I had to start my college homework. My kids are awesome!
We skipped our bible verse tonight cause I'm behind in my college work, but we will make up for it tomorrow. My kids are doing great with the bible.
The Dominican Culture
What is the Dominican culture? When I look around here, I see most women working and then men are sitting at home playing dominoes. Trust me I am sure they don't feel so manly without jobs, but it is more common to see men at home and women working. No matter what the women take care of the house.
Women are to take care of their men. But men are to enjoy life. They can do whatever they want in their life and women have to accept it. What does this mean? It means if my man went out drinking (NEVER) and left me home, it is very wrong for me to EVER go checking up on him! A woman does not check up on the man ever.
Well lets just say this is a very chauvinistic culture! For those of you who remember how I met my husband, my best friend Reymon recommended my husband to me. When I asked him if he knew any good guys, he said he only knew ONE. Yeah, well i got that one :) Reymon was very smart, and exactly right. Francisco IS just like Reymon in many ways. Loving their women they are the same.
Here is a picture of my husband and Reymon teaching and learning one anothers different techniques of massaging our feet!! I am not the only pampered person out there, I realize that once I saw Reymon doing the same for his woman! He loves her and its apparent!! Just as Cacique loves me too ;)
Here's the picture.. What do you think about this? :)
Women are to take care of their men. But men are to enjoy life. They can do whatever they want in their life and women have to accept it. What does this mean? It means if my man went out drinking (NEVER) and left me home, it is very wrong for me to EVER go checking up on him! A woman does not check up on the man ever.
Well lets just say this is a very chauvinistic culture! For those of you who remember how I met my husband, my best friend Reymon recommended my husband to me. When I asked him if he knew any good guys, he said he only knew ONE. Yeah, well i got that one :) Reymon was very smart, and exactly right. Francisco IS just like Reymon in many ways. Loving their women they are the same.
Here is a picture of my husband and Reymon teaching and learning one anothers different techniques of massaging our feet!! I am not the only pampered person out there, I realize that once I saw Reymon doing the same for his woman! He loves her and its apparent!! Just as Cacique loves me too ;)
Here's the picture.. What do you think about this? :)
Wednesday, May 22, 2013
Blonde Moments
My youngest daughter is a lot like her mom. She's got blonde hair, and let's just admit it, we act Blonde sometimes.. One night coming out of our local department/Supermarket (Think Walmart) my daughter announces that she knows where the car is. The problem was she was going in the wrong direction. My husband grabbed a hold of her hand and they walked around the entire parking lot, passing our car, and kept walking. He asked her at each car.. Is this one it? Wait it must be this one.. Well she finally found it about 10 minutes later. We laughed as she did this and my husband was so patient with her.
The other night we parked near one door that we don't normally park at but when we came out we came out a different door. That night she knew what we were doing and she brought us right to the right car. YOU GO GIRL.. *smile* Tonight as we were walking into the store he kept telling her.. tonight he's going to confuse her. He kept making her close her eyes and spin around, sending her in different directions.. While shopping my husband disappeared. I had an idea what he was doing but wasn't really sure he'd do that. Sure enough he did. He went back outside and moved the car.
When we got outside he spun her around a few times sending her in the right direction but she turned around and went off into the wrong direction.. Reverse psychology works on blondes!! lol We walked around, danced, laughed, and then we went to find our car, he took her hand and they went car to car again, and After about 15 minutes I had enough. I just wanted to go home and unpack the groceries. My husband led er to the car, and she died laughing. She never did question how the car moved.. I know she didn't see when he magically disappeared. I'll have to ask her if she knows what happened.
On the drive home my blonde moment daughter announced that she knew how to get home. My husband challenged her and she seemed to be going correctly. He then brought her attention to something in the bag as he turned down a road we never went down. She was lost. We laughed for about 15 minutes as she couldn't find her way out. She laughed harder than we did.
Memories are so much fun when you have kids. I no longer have to make these memories with the kids alone. I have someone to make them with, laugh, and remember for a long time. I was a single mom for too long. This is great having a partner.
The other night we parked near one door that we don't normally park at but when we came out we came out a different door. That night she knew what we were doing and she brought us right to the right car. YOU GO GIRL.. *smile* Tonight as we were walking into the store he kept telling her.. tonight he's going to confuse her. He kept making her close her eyes and spin around, sending her in different directions.. While shopping my husband disappeared. I had an idea what he was doing but wasn't really sure he'd do that. Sure enough he did. He went back outside and moved the car.
When we got outside he spun her around a few times sending her in the right direction but she turned around and went off into the wrong direction.. Reverse psychology works on blondes!! lol We walked around, danced, laughed, and then we went to find our car, he took her hand and they went car to car again, and After about 15 minutes I had enough. I just wanted to go home and unpack the groceries. My husband led er to the car, and she died laughing. She never did question how the car moved.. I know she didn't see when he magically disappeared. I'll have to ask her if she knows what happened.
On the drive home my blonde moment daughter announced that she knew how to get home. My husband challenged her and she seemed to be going correctly. He then brought her attention to something in the bag as he turned down a road we never went down. She was lost. We laughed for about 15 minutes as she couldn't find her way out. She laughed harder than we did.
Memories are so much fun when you have kids. I no longer have to make these memories with the kids alone. I have someone to make them with, laugh, and remember for a long time. I was a single mom for too long. This is great having a partner.
Tuesday, May 21, 2013
Mom, Help Me! I like her...
My husband and I had decided to get married. I was living 3 hours away from him, and he was 5 hours away from his mother. He hadn't seen his mother in 7 years, and I hadn't ever met his mother. If anyone knows my husband, he LOVES to surprise people! So here was his surprise. He brought me to meet his mom, well.... And to tell her we were getting married, but he didn't do it in a normal fashion. He didn't show up at her house, introduce us, and break the news to her, instead he did it this way!
He contacted his brother with a vehicle and asked him to pick us up at the bus stop. This was my first meeting of the family. We got into the back of the truck and he introduced me to his brother. His brother said, we saw the pictures of her on the facebook. The pictures were just me sitting in his car. There was no sign of "love" on them so he didn't know that I was his fiance either. Ok.. So he tells his brother not to tell his mother.
We drive 1 hour to the countryside in which his mother lives. He then tells me how this is going to be a huge surprise to his mother for two reasons.. 1. He hasn't seen her in 7 years, and 2. 7 years ago he had a full head of hair and now he chooses to shave it, and 3. He's bringing an American to her house, and 4. He's going to be marrying her soon!
So we arrive to the house and his brother and him get out of the pickup truck and leave me in the back seat. The window are tinted. I watch as my husband knocks on the door, and a woman opens up the door with the same height and size of my husband. They fling into one another arms and she's screaming.. YAY my son!! Wow God, thank you for this blessing! Thank you Lord, wow, my son, my son.. God Bless you my son!! Wow! Albertico! Albertico! and tears are flying.. Then he tells her, no mother no crying, I have a friend in the car that I want you to meet. It's a girl I have liked for 2 years, but I don't think she likes me. The reason is... and he pulls off his baseball cap and shows her his bald head.. NO!!!!!! She says and says it's ugly!! Put your hat back on! Oh Albertico that is so ugly why did you do that?! Keep your hat on. Is the girl in the car?! He says, "Yes!" Help me convince her to be my girlfriend. She says.. Oh I have been praying for years my son! Everyday I pray God will bring you the right girl..
She comes to the Pickup truck and opens the door. It looks as though the door swung open and hit her and she was in pain! She slams the door closed and yesll.. No! Albertico! That is an American! What if she doesn't like Dominicans?! Oh no Albertico! Why did you shave your head?! Its so ugly! Oh no! He is like Mom, you just closed the door on her!! He opens it up and she says.. omg.. God Bless You! Do you speak Spanish?! and I answer back and say yes. She invites me to come out of the pickup truck, and Cacique helps me out. She hugs me, and introduces herself to as his mother, etc. We go into her house and he says.. Mom, I'm going to wash my face, convince her!
I take the seat next to his brother, who is smiling but playing with his phone.
She comes over to me and tells me. "Are you a Christian?!" and I respond "Yes!"
She says. "I have prayed for my son for many, many years that he find a good Christian woman."
I smile as she starts her convincing statement. lol.
"Each day when I wake up, I pray, Lord, Please help my faithful son to find the woman of his dreams. and each night before bed, I thank him for working on the woman of my son's dreams." she says. as I sit and smile at her. "My son is a very serious man, I am not just telling you this because he is my son, I am telling you this because he is a very good man."
I say.. "Yes, he is a very awesome person, we have been good friends for two years, and he has always done so much for me as his friend."
She says.. "Yes!! He is good.. He wants you to be his girlfriend. What do you say?"
Now going along with the joke I say "Me? His Girlfriend?!" (Now remember we are already engaged to be married."
She says "Yes! He's be a good boyfriend. He doesn't go out and drink. He doesn't cheat. He hasn't had many girlfriends. He's a very good guy, what do you say?"
I said. "Ok."
She jumps up and says "Oh My Lord, THank you! Thank you God! I am so happy!! Wow! Albertico she said yes!! She will be your girlfriend!!!!"
He's still in the bathroom and says!! Good Job mom!! Now convince her to marry me!! She says.. "No Albertico start out as her boyfriend, and then one day you can ask her to marry you!!"
He says "Mom, you did such a good job! You did such an awesome job and she may not be here in this country much longer, convince her now to marry me!!"
She walks back out a little sheepishly and says. "My son would make a really good husband. I don't know if you have any children, but he'd make an awesome father one day. He's not getting any younger, and he wants to know if you want to marry him. Will you marry him?"
I said.. "Me? Marry him?!"
She says.. "Yes!" and the silence could be cut with a knife, and she says "What do you say?"
I said.. "Let's get married!!!"
She jumps up again and screams! "I'm so happy!! HAPPY! HAPPY!!! Albertico! She said yes!! She said she will marry you!! She said yes!!! Albertico!! "
She was so excited. Cacique comes out of the bathroom sits down in a chair next to me, and she says.. Wow!! When are you getting married? He says.. Maybe March 1st.. And she says.. YEAH!!!!! and he says.. OF NEXT YEAR! She says.. Oh, Ok.. ok.. :) I said.. "no, no.. we are looking at March of this year.
Long story short.. we couldn't wait 2 weeks to get married, and we married on Valentines Day. We had planned March 1st, but Valentines Day just seemed like such an awesome date to be wed. So that is when we did it.. :)
He contacted his brother with a vehicle and asked him to pick us up at the bus stop. This was my first meeting of the family. We got into the back of the truck and he introduced me to his brother. His brother said, we saw the pictures of her on the facebook. The pictures were just me sitting in his car. There was no sign of "love" on them so he didn't know that I was his fiance either. Ok.. So he tells his brother not to tell his mother.
We drive 1 hour to the countryside in which his mother lives. He then tells me how this is going to be a huge surprise to his mother for two reasons.. 1. He hasn't seen her in 7 years, and 2. 7 years ago he had a full head of hair and now he chooses to shave it, and 3. He's bringing an American to her house, and 4. He's going to be marrying her soon!
So we arrive to the house and his brother and him get out of the pickup truck and leave me in the back seat. The window are tinted. I watch as my husband knocks on the door, and a woman opens up the door with the same height and size of my husband. They fling into one another arms and she's screaming.. YAY my son!! Wow God, thank you for this blessing! Thank you Lord, wow, my son, my son.. God Bless you my son!! Wow! Albertico! Albertico! and tears are flying.. Then he tells her, no mother no crying, I have a friend in the car that I want you to meet. It's a girl I have liked for 2 years, but I don't think she likes me. The reason is... and he pulls off his baseball cap and shows her his bald head.. NO!!!!!! She says and says it's ugly!! Put your hat back on! Oh Albertico that is so ugly why did you do that?! Keep your hat on. Is the girl in the car?! He says, "Yes!" Help me convince her to be my girlfriend. She says.. Oh I have been praying for years my son! Everyday I pray God will bring you the right girl..
She comes to the Pickup truck and opens the door. It looks as though the door swung open and hit her and she was in pain! She slams the door closed and yesll.. No! Albertico! That is an American! What if she doesn't like Dominicans?! Oh no Albertico! Why did you shave your head?! Its so ugly! Oh no! He is like Mom, you just closed the door on her!! He opens it up and she says.. omg.. God Bless You! Do you speak Spanish?! and I answer back and say yes. She invites me to come out of the pickup truck, and Cacique helps me out. She hugs me, and introduces herself to as his mother, etc. We go into her house and he says.. Mom, I'm going to wash my face, convince her!
I take the seat next to his brother, who is smiling but playing with his phone.
She comes over to me and tells me. "Are you a Christian?!" and I respond "Yes!"
She says. "I have prayed for my son for many, many years that he find a good Christian woman."
I smile as she starts her convincing statement. lol.
"Each day when I wake up, I pray, Lord, Please help my faithful son to find the woman of his dreams. and each night before bed, I thank him for working on the woman of my son's dreams." she says. as I sit and smile at her. "My son is a very serious man, I am not just telling you this because he is my son, I am telling you this because he is a very good man."
I say.. "Yes, he is a very awesome person, we have been good friends for two years, and he has always done so much for me as his friend."
She says.. "Yes!! He is good.. He wants you to be his girlfriend. What do you say?"
Now going along with the joke I say "Me? His Girlfriend?!" (Now remember we are already engaged to be married."
She says "Yes! He's be a good boyfriend. He doesn't go out and drink. He doesn't cheat. He hasn't had many girlfriends. He's a very good guy, what do you say?"
I said. "Ok."
She jumps up and says "Oh My Lord, THank you! Thank you God! I am so happy!! Wow! Albertico she said yes!! She will be your girlfriend!!!!"
He's still in the bathroom and says!! Good Job mom!! Now convince her to marry me!! She says.. "No Albertico start out as her boyfriend, and then one day you can ask her to marry you!!"
He says "Mom, you did such a good job! You did such an awesome job and she may not be here in this country much longer, convince her now to marry me!!"
She walks back out a little sheepishly and says. "My son would make a really good husband. I don't know if you have any children, but he'd make an awesome father one day. He's not getting any younger, and he wants to know if you want to marry him. Will you marry him?"
I said.. "Me? Marry him?!"
She says.. "Yes!" and the silence could be cut with a knife, and she says "What do you say?"
I said.. "Let's get married!!!"
She jumps up again and screams! "I'm so happy!! HAPPY! HAPPY!!! Albertico! She said yes!! She said she will marry you!! She said yes!!! Albertico!! "
She was so excited. Cacique comes out of the bathroom sits down in a chair next to me, and she says.. Wow!! When are you getting married? He says.. Maybe March 1st.. And she says.. YEAH!!!!! and he says.. OF NEXT YEAR! She says.. Oh, Ok.. ok.. :) I said.. "no, no.. we are looking at March of this year.
Long story short.. we couldn't wait 2 weeks to get married, and we married on Valentines Day. We had planned March 1st, but Valentines Day just seemed like such an awesome date to be wed. So that is when we did it.. :)
Saturday, May 18, 2013
Super Hubby
My husband can do ANYTHING and everything the girls can do. He loves to joke around with them and say.. What? You don't think Papito can't do that? Of course I can.
My middle child loves to do crazy things. Before I married my husband we had an apartment me and the girls in which the two younger girls loved to climb the walls as if they were spiders. When hubby came to visit he saw what they were doing. He decided he as going to do that too!
He said.. What? Do you think you are the only one who can do that kind of stuff? No way! He proceeds to take off his shoes, and first attempt the way the girls are doing it and embarrassed he falls. Then says.. Wait.. i'll get up there, and starts to scoot up a different way in which he would push off the wall in front of him. He then showed Lidia how to do it that way that way she could join my spiders on the walls.
Well then one night I was working. Liliana came out with makeup she had bought. An eyeliner and eyeshadow and she had put it all over her face. Then the 4 kids were scurrying around doing things. Four kids meaning Cacique, and my 3 girls. lol. Well the next time I saw this.. This is what I saw:
So are you ready what they were doing?
They were having way too much fun, and I hate to tell you that it was my husband who was the ring leader here. Liliana started it, but my husband had just as much fun as the girls did!! hahaha..
Too cute.. I love him! :)
My middle child loves to do crazy things. Before I married my husband we had an apartment me and the girls in which the two younger girls loved to climb the walls as if they were spiders. When hubby came to visit he saw what they were doing. He decided he as going to do that too!
He said.. What? Do you think you are the only one who can do that kind of stuff? No way! He proceeds to take off his shoes, and first attempt the way the girls are doing it and embarrassed he falls. Then says.. Wait.. i'll get up there, and starts to scoot up a different way in which he would push off the wall in front of him. He then showed Lidia how to do it that way that way she could join my spiders on the walls.
Well then one night I was working. Liliana came out with makeup she had bought. An eyeliner and eyeshadow and she had put it all over her face. Then the 4 kids were scurrying around doing things. Four kids meaning Cacique, and my 3 girls. lol. Well the next time I saw this.. This is what I saw:
So are you ready what they were doing?
Too cute.. I love him! :)
How Did We Meet?
January of 2011 I was chatting with my best Dominican guyfriend named Reymon. We were talking about my planned trip to the Dominican Republic. I was packing up my 3 beautiful girls to head to the Dominican Republic. My kids are half Dominican so I wanted them to get the opportunity to know their grandparents and learn the language their other side of the family speaks. What better way? Spending 5 months in the Dominican Republic, right?
I had been married to a Dominican man for 14 years and had 4 children with him. I didn't want a Dominican man, but I saw how awesome Reymon was with his girlfriend. He would NEVER cheat on his girlfriend as he loves her way too much. He won't look at another woman let alone cheat with one. So while we were talking I said. Well maybe if I found a good guy like you but older I would consider a relationship.
My friend said. Oh Jennifer, there aren't many good Dominicans. There are a few but I'm not sure. I said well don't you know any single men that are as good as you? He said.. I have one friend who is a very strong Christian man. I'm not sure, I don't think he likes women because there are women that have liked him, and he says he is not interested.
"Are these women that liked him Christian women?" I asked.
"Yes, Jennifer! Good looking, Christian women, I think it is just him. He said he is waiting for one from God. I don't know if he will ever get married. I think he is your age." said Reymon.
"Oh well, maybe he's Gay.. You don't know any other?" I asked.
"No! Not anyone that I would say for sure that they would be good for you, I don't want you to get hurt and it be my fault." Reymon said.
Ok.. Oh well..
Fast forward....
Me and the girls are living with their grandfather, and enjoying the country that I fell in-love with when I was 15 years old. I decided to bring the girls to the beach and invited Reymon. Reymon asked if he could invite his friend. I said sure, the more the merrier.
Long story short this man became such an awesome friend. But just that... a friend.
He had a truck so one day I asked him. Cacique, I need to buy a washer machine, when I'm ready can we use your truck to bring it home? Sure I can bring you now! No, No, I'm not ready, next week I will have some money.
About one half hour lady, Cacique arrived at our house with his washer machine. Jennifer, please use my washer machine, you have the kids and I don't. You can use this, and then when you get the money to buy your own, you can give this back. Its no problem! uhm.. Well.. this is not the ONLY sweet thing he did for me. I remember writing home and telling my mom and bestfriend from home about the man at the pharmacy. Cacique worked at the Pharmacy when we first met.
I work through the Internet, so Cacique went about 4 days from not seeing me online. One day he called me and asked me if I was in cachon. That is where I was living. Yes I was. About 20 minutes later Cacique showed up to Cachon with his computer and said for me to please use his computer. He said he noticed I hadn't connected in a few days so I could use his computer so that I can do my work.
Another thing was when I moved into my first home with the girls in the Dominican Republic we hit a bad Hurricane right away. I was scared out of my mind. The man I was seeing at the time (just getting to know him) rushed to his mother's side because he wanted to be with her. (Yes a 52 year old man who's brother also lived with his mom so his mom would NOT be alone."
Cacique called me to ask me how I was doing with the upcoming hurricane in which I told him my fear. He told me no worries. I said you haven't seen where I live. I'm in this huge house by myself and I'm scared. I tried to explain where I was living but he wasn't sure. He told me not to worry. I said but I am worried. No matter what I said he kept telling me to put it in God's hands. Sure.. Sure.. That's all I can do anyway.
About a half hour later Cacique arrived with my best guyfriend who had showed him how to get to my house. Cacique showed up with a flashlight, eggs, milk, and a bunch of other supplies. He secured the home, made sure everything was ok, and prayed with me. He told me not to be afraid. I told him I would love it if I had someone there with me, hinting.
My best guyfriend called me later and said.. Cacique REALLY wanted to stay with us, but he didn't want me to have a bad reputation. He didn't want the people around to talk about how I had a guy stay with me, even though nothing would happen between me and him it wouldn't look good. He said he didn't care what people thought of him but as a woman he needed to protect my image since I wasn't from here and didn't realize what kind of images Dominicans give one another. LOL..
Now with other things that happened with Cacique.. More things of what he did for me and the girls in our first few months of living on the island my mom was SHOCKED when I told her I was with a different man. What about the man from the pharmacy? She said.. I have to respect your decisions, but I don't understand, that man was so good to you. I said.. "Mom, he's too short, and his teeth are funny." I was afraid to also tell my mom that he was too white!
When Cacique and I started our relationship after I had broken up with the other man, He had shaved his head, and also fixed his teeth!! I always loved bald guys, but getting used to him with a bald head took awhile for me and the girls. Now I love it.. :)
In the time that I was with the other guy, I completely grew up and changed. I definitely wasn't ready to accept such a good man back then. I had come to the country and wanted to dance, I loved to dance. I wanted to be in the home of bachata and dancing. Dancing Bachata is against the bible in this country. Not because it literally says it in the bible but because it's cultural. The reason is Bachata can be a very sensual dance, or sexy. Therefore they don't allow it. My husband is an extremely diehard Christian and would NEVER have it. He would NOT compromise. The good Lord took care of my dancing when I got into a motorcycle accident and hurt my knee. I can't dance.. so that was just ONE way that the Lord worked on me.
I didn't want a "good" guy. I liked the "bad" guys. That is what I got. After be beaten up by him, I was ready for a good guy. These are just a few ways the Lord worked on me and got me ready for my now Husband.
I had been married to a Dominican man for 14 years and had 4 children with him. I didn't want a Dominican man, but I saw how awesome Reymon was with his girlfriend. He would NEVER cheat on his girlfriend as he loves her way too much. He won't look at another woman let alone cheat with one. So while we were talking I said. Well maybe if I found a good guy like you but older I would consider a relationship.
My friend said. Oh Jennifer, there aren't many good Dominicans. There are a few but I'm not sure. I said well don't you know any single men that are as good as you? He said.. I have one friend who is a very strong Christian man. I'm not sure, I don't think he likes women because there are women that have liked him, and he says he is not interested.
"Are these women that liked him Christian women?" I asked.
"Yes, Jennifer! Good looking, Christian women, I think it is just him. He said he is waiting for one from God. I don't know if he will ever get married. I think he is your age." said Reymon.
"Oh well, maybe he's Gay.. You don't know any other?" I asked.
"No! Not anyone that I would say for sure that they would be good for you, I don't want you to get hurt and it be my fault." Reymon said.
Ok.. Oh well..
Fast forward....
Me and the girls are living with their grandfather, and enjoying the country that I fell in-love with when I was 15 years old. I decided to bring the girls to the beach and invited Reymon. Reymon asked if he could invite his friend. I said sure, the more the merrier.
Long story short this man became such an awesome friend. But just that... a friend.
He had a truck so one day I asked him. Cacique, I need to buy a washer machine, when I'm ready can we use your truck to bring it home? Sure I can bring you now! No, No, I'm not ready, next week I will have some money.
About one half hour lady, Cacique arrived at our house with his washer machine. Jennifer, please use my washer machine, you have the kids and I don't. You can use this, and then when you get the money to buy your own, you can give this back. Its no problem! uhm.. Well.. this is not the ONLY sweet thing he did for me. I remember writing home and telling my mom and bestfriend from home about the man at the pharmacy. Cacique worked at the Pharmacy when we first met.
I work through the Internet, so Cacique went about 4 days from not seeing me online. One day he called me and asked me if I was in cachon. That is where I was living. Yes I was. About 20 minutes later Cacique showed up to Cachon with his computer and said for me to please use his computer. He said he noticed I hadn't connected in a few days so I could use his computer so that I can do my work.
Another thing was when I moved into my first home with the girls in the Dominican Republic we hit a bad Hurricane right away. I was scared out of my mind. The man I was seeing at the time (just getting to know him) rushed to his mother's side because he wanted to be with her. (Yes a 52 year old man who's brother also lived with his mom so his mom would NOT be alone."
Cacique called me to ask me how I was doing with the upcoming hurricane in which I told him my fear. He told me no worries. I said you haven't seen where I live. I'm in this huge house by myself and I'm scared. I tried to explain where I was living but he wasn't sure. He told me not to worry. I said but I am worried. No matter what I said he kept telling me to put it in God's hands. Sure.. Sure.. That's all I can do anyway.
About a half hour later Cacique arrived with my best guyfriend who had showed him how to get to my house. Cacique showed up with a flashlight, eggs, milk, and a bunch of other supplies. He secured the home, made sure everything was ok, and prayed with me. He told me not to be afraid. I told him I would love it if I had someone there with me, hinting.
My best guyfriend called me later and said.. Cacique REALLY wanted to stay with us, but he didn't want me to have a bad reputation. He didn't want the people around to talk about how I had a guy stay with me, even though nothing would happen between me and him it wouldn't look good. He said he didn't care what people thought of him but as a woman he needed to protect my image since I wasn't from here and didn't realize what kind of images Dominicans give one another. LOL..
Now with other things that happened with Cacique.. More things of what he did for me and the girls in our first few months of living on the island my mom was SHOCKED when I told her I was with a different man. What about the man from the pharmacy? She said.. I have to respect your decisions, but I don't understand, that man was so good to you. I said.. "Mom, he's too short, and his teeth are funny." I was afraid to also tell my mom that he was too white!
When Cacique and I started our relationship after I had broken up with the other man, He had shaved his head, and also fixed his teeth!! I always loved bald guys, but getting used to him with a bald head took awhile for me and the girls. Now I love it.. :)
In the time that I was with the other guy, I completely grew up and changed. I definitely wasn't ready to accept such a good man back then. I had come to the country and wanted to dance, I loved to dance. I wanted to be in the home of bachata and dancing. Dancing Bachata is against the bible in this country. Not because it literally says it in the bible but because it's cultural. The reason is Bachata can be a very sensual dance, or sexy. Therefore they don't allow it. My husband is an extremely diehard Christian and would NEVER have it. He would NOT compromise. The good Lord took care of my dancing when I got into a motorcycle accident and hurt my knee. I can't dance.. so that was just ONE way that the Lord worked on me.
I didn't want a "good" guy. I liked the "bad" guys. That is what I got. After be beaten up by him, I was ready for a good guy. These are just a few ways the Lord worked on me and got me ready for my now Husband.
Driving in the Car..
As I have mentioned before, we live in the Dominican Republic. We were actually living in a more dangerous area called Barahona. It's a more poor area in which desperation calls for desperate measures. The people are trying to survive and there are a lot more robberies and muggings in that area.
My husband is worse than a protective parent. He literally watches my every move. He is more protective of me and the kids than I am of my kids. Let me give you a good example of what I mean.
My husband has a nice Volkswagon Jetta. Before being married to him, me and the girls were used to riding in public transportation. One day I will show you what public transportation looks like in the Dominican Republic, but lets just say, safe is not a word that would be used. Back to my husband. The minute I get in the car, he will say. My Queen, please put on your seatbelt. Or he will say.. My Queen, you haven't forgotten your seatbelt right? Or if he knows I am moody he has learned to say. My Queen, can I help you snap in your seatbelt? lol
It gets better or worse.. whatever way you want to look at it. My husband will keep an eye on me at all times. He will also be making sure to keep an eye on anyone who would approach the car. He has stopped before because a motorcycle was driving along side of us. He wanted to let the motorcycle go ahead. My husband will keep an eye on my arm. You see, there is no AC in the car so the windows are open, but they are not allowed to be opened all the way. If I have the window open all the way, he will say, please would you mind if I just put it up a tiny bit? Please understand my love, I just don't want anything to happen to you, the girls need you. That is his story. The girls need you!
If I put my elbow on the window sil, and grab the top of the car, it's ok as long as I have the handle. If I hold the outside of the door with my hand like many normal people do, he will plead with me to put my hand back in the car. He said it only takes a quick second for something to happen and he would be mortified if anything happened to me, to please understand why he is like this. lol..
He does the same thing with the kids window too. They can't have it even close to down. They need to always stay seated, and he doesn't like them leaning forward. He says he just needs to make sure everyone is safe at all time. Yes, I love him..
My husband is worse than a protective parent. He literally watches my every move. He is more protective of me and the kids than I am of my kids. Let me give you a good example of what I mean.
My husband has a nice Volkswagon Jetta. Before being married to him, me and the girls were used to riding in public transportation. One day I will show you what public transportation looks like in the Dominican Republic, but lets just say, safe is not a word that would be used. Back to my husband. The minute I get in the car, he will say. My Queen, please put on your seatbelt. Or he will say.. My Queen, you haven't forgotten your seatbelt right? Or if he knows I am moody he has learned to say. My Queen, can I help you snap in your seatbelt? lol
It gets better or worse.. whatever way you want to look at it. My husband will keep an eye on me at all times. He will also be making sure to keep an eye on anyone who would approach the car. He has stopped before because a motorcycle was driving along side of us. He wanted to let the motorcycle go ahead. My husband will keep an eye on my arm. You see, there is no AC in the car so the windows are open, but they are not allowed to be opened all the way. If I have the window open all the way, he will say, please would you mind if I just put it up a tiny bit? Please understand my love, I just don't want anything to happen to you, the girls need you. That is his story. The girls need you!
If I put my elbow on the window sil, and grab the top of the car, it's ok as long as I have the handle. If I hold the outside of the door with my hand like many normal people do, he will plead with me to put my hand back in the car. He said it only takes a quick second for something to happen and he would be mortified if anything happened to me, to please understand why he is like this. lol..
He does the same thing with the kids window too. They can't have it even close to down. They need to always stay seated, and he doesn't like them leaning forward. He says he just needs to make sure everyone is safe at all time. Yes, I love him..
Booby Trap
So the other night I hurt my back coming out of the shower. I like to shower before bed so when I was getting out of the shower, my one foot slid just a tiny bit, and I pulled out my back. It really wasn't all that bad, but when getting into bed I made a noise from the pain.
I slept ok, I didn't need any pain killers, really I was ok. A little slight muscle spasm. It happens! I have a bad back anyway!!
That's it! No more getting out of the shower alone my hubby says! What? Are you kidding me?! No! Please promise me that you will always allow me to help you out of the shower. I don't like to make him feel uneasy so I quickly said ok.
Little did I think about what this meant. This means my husband stalks the bathroom door. He WAITS for the water to go off so that he can knock and say.. "My Queen...Are you ready to get out?" I bet that would really drive most women nuts. I absolutely love and adore it!! He is so awesome! This man loves me, and I am FINALLY treated the way I always wanted to be treated!! Woohoo.. THANK YOU GOD!
Well after the first few times I will admit, it got tiresome. I mean, I like to work late at night. Look right now as I write this its 3:30 a.m. in the morning. I do my best work at this time. So now he wants me to wake him up to get me out of the shower. This is nuts!
So the first night, I shower.. la ti da ti da.. shower, shower shower.. shut off the water, and I'm like, ok I can handle this. I will hold on tight and go slow. And then it happens.... the knock at the door. Scares the beejeezus out of me. Mi Amor, are you ready to get out of the shower. I laugh and giggle.. Yes, I am Mi Amor.. I get all excited to see his smiling, tired face as he helps me out.
The second night I know he is really tired. He got up super early to bring the girls to Gymnastics and got to bed really late the night before. He was exhausted. So I go in the bathroom and shocked to see that my towel is NOT waiting for me. Wow, he really WAS tired, I think..
I see my bedroom door closed which is NEVER closed at night. I quietly open up the door, and as it swings open gently a spoon comes crashing down and I hit into some string.. I couldn't stand up I began laughing in hysterics as my husband jumps up and the string is wrapped around his finger and the door knob!! And if his booby trap wasn't enough to make you laugh, I see a huge pile of every towel I own on top of our bed (Under the mosquito netting), that was so that I wouldn't shower with out having him help me out!! hahaha..
He rigged the bedroom so that when I opened up the door it would pull the string around his finger waking him up to let him know that I was looking for my towel. If the string wouldn't wake him up, he knew that the spoon that he had set on top of the door would have woken me up. I literally laughed for 45 minutes and couldn't sleep after this.. i was just dying that this man loves me THAT much that he won't allow me to hurt my back again on the bathroom. How can you NOT love this man?
I slept ok, I didn't need any pain killers, really I was ok. A little slight muscle spasm. It happens! I have a bad back anyway!!
That's it! No more getting out of the shower alone my hubby says! What? Are you kidding me?! No! Please promise me that you will always allow me to help you out of the shower. I don't like to make him feel uneasy so I quickly said ok.
Little did I think about what this meant. This means my husband stalks the bathroom door. He WAITS for the water to go off so that he can knock and say.. "My Queen...Are you ready to get out?" I bet that would really drive most women nuts. I absolutely love and adore it!! He is so awesome! This man loves me, and I am FINALLY treated the way I always wanted to be treated!! Woohoo.. THANK YOU GOD!
Well after the first few times I will admit, it got tiresome. I mean, I like to work late at night. Look right now as I write this its 3:30 a.m. in the morning. I do my best work at this time. So now he wants me to wake him up to get me out of the shower. This is nuts!
So the first night, I shower.. la ti da ti da.. shower, shower shower.. shut off the water, and I'm like, ok I can handle this. I will hold on tight and go slow. And then it happens.... the knock at the door. Scares the beejeezus out of me. Mi Amor, are you ready to get out of the shower. I laugh and giggle.. Yes, I am Mi Amor.. I get all excited to see his smiling, tired face as he helps me out.
The second night I know he is really tired. He got up super early to bring the girls to Gymnastics and got to bed really late the night before. He was exhausted. So I go in the bathroom and shocked to see that my towel is NOT waiting for me. Wow, he really WAS tired, I think..
I see my bedroom door closed which is NEVER closed at night. I quietly open up the door, and as it swings open gently a spoon comes crashing down and I hit into some string.. I couldn't stand up I began laughing in hysterics as my husband jumps up and the string is wrapped around his finger and the door knob!! And if his booby trap wasn't enough to make you laugh, I see a huge pile of every towel I own on top of our bed (Under the mosquito netting), that was so that I wouldn't shower with out having him help me out!! hahaha..
He rigged the bedroom so that when I opened up the door it would pull the string around his finger waking him up to let him know that I was looking for my towel. If the string wouldn't wake him up, he knew that the spoon that he had set on top of the door would have woken me up. I literally laughed for 45 minutes and couldn't sleep after this.. i was just dying that this man loves me THAT much that he won't allow me to hurt my back again on the bathroom. How can you NOT love this man?
Here Goes Nothing...
So for the past 3 months I have thought about writing a blog about my crazy husband! He is the most amazing man in the world, and I feel nothing but love from him, every moment of the day.
Let me explain how crazy in love he is. Which has truly made me fall madly in-love with him. How could you not? This is a typical love sick day... EVERY day..
Every morning I will sleep late. My husband gets up early and does some chores in the morning. We live in the Dominican Republic and we don't have a constant source of water. We get water twice a day. We have a big cistern that sits on the roof so he goes out early in the morning and turns on our water pump so that we all have water to bathe, wash clothes, dishes, cook, etc. Oh before he does his chores he will usually pray for a good 1/2 hour. So after he turns the water pump on, he jumps in the shower.
After his shower he lines up my flip-flops so that they are exactly where I would get out of the bed. We sleep with a mosquito net so he knows exactly where I get out. They are always waiting right there for me. He then has my towel waiting in the bathroom, along with my bathrobe. My husband is extremely conservative so he makes sure I have my robe to come out of the shower in. It gets better.
We have a wire rack over the showerhead which holds our shampoo. He has my toothbrush waiting there even though he thinks its totally NUTS that I brush my teeth in the shower. It's already got the toothpaste waiting.
Now he will check on me several times every single morning. Sometimes I will wake up to him just staring at me with a smile. He will pace around sometimes waiting for me to get up and making sure the kids have everything they could ever want without waking up mom. He's just a dream! Unfortunately I've gotten way too used to his way that I find myself easily sleeping way past the time that I should.
Oh and the other thing. We have a maid. My maid will have our breakfast waiting on the table early in the morning, but he will NOT eat without me. I love this man!
Let me explain how crazy in love he is. Which has truly made me fall madly in-love with him. How could you not? This is a typical love sick day... EVERY day..
Every morning I will sleep late. My husband gets up early and does some chores in the morning. We live in the Dominican Republic and we don't have a constant source of water. We get water twice a day. We have a big cistern that sits on the roof so he goes out early in the morning and turns on our water pump so that we all have water to bathe, wash clothes, dishes, cook, etc. Oh before he does his chores he will usually pray for a good 1/2 hour. So after he turns the water pump on, he jumps in the shower.
After his shower he lines up my flip-flops so that they are exactly where I would get out of the bed. We sleep with a mosquito net so he knows exactly where I get out. They are always waiting right there for me. He then has my towel waiting in the bathroom, along with my bathrobe. My husband is extremely conservative so he makes sure I have my robe to come out of the shower in. It gets better.
We have a wire rack over the showerhead which holds our shampoo. He has my toothbrush waiting there even though he thinks its totally NUTS that I brush my teeth in the shower. It's already got the toothpaste waiting.
Now he will check on me several times every single morning. Sometimes I will wake up to him just staring at me with a smile. He will pace around sometimes waiting for me to get up and making sure the kids have everything they could ever want without waking up mom. He's just a dream! Unfortunately I've gotten way too used to his way that I find myself easily sleeping way past the time that I should.
Oh and the other thing. We have a maid. My maid will have our breakfast waiting on the table early in the morning, but he will NOT eat without me. I love this man!
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