Time is ticking closer to when I will go back to the United States. I will be honest, nobody, not one of us REALLY wants to go back to the United States, but deep inside I know it is the right thing to do for so many reasons.
I no longer live in the paradise area of the island. Many people would disagree as they do not feel that Barahona is even remotely pretty, but I was in Heaven when I lived there. I went to sleep with the pounding sound of the waves crashing, it was gorgeous. I woke up the the gorgeous sunshine, and sunsets were amazing. I'm NOT a beach person at all, and I really despise the sun, but I love to live on the beach.
The worst thing that nobody ever told me about living on the water is that electronics break easily from the salt water. Who would have known?
Living on a tropical Island is gorgeous. I do love it here and would stay here in the north as they call it the CIBAO if I had a choice of NY Or here. BUT if I had a choice of where on earth I would rather be it would be Barahona.
I am here in the north because it is the safest place for me on this Island. My ex boyfriend has made comments like, If I can't have you, no Dominican should. His brother is almost out of jail. He's been in prison for 13 years, and has 2 years left for killing his wife! So you see, the threats are not something I need to take lightly. Meanwhile, I will stay here in the "North" in which I know I am safe.
Living here in the Dominican Republic has been an amazing experience for me and the children. My children are completely bilingual and speak really good Spanish. They have also learned the way Dominican people live. I have also taught them the good and bad of this culture.
We have a very easy life here in the Dominican Republic. I work online, and homeschool the kids. My children play outside as much as they possibly can. They LOVE it. They have lots of friends.
I love that they have grown up being a minority, and being exposed to different people. I will head to New York and continue to have them around all different type of people.
My children have lived the last 3 years without a lot of toys that they would normally have had. They were taught to enjoy and cherish what they have. They make a lot of their toys, because the kids in the neighborhood do too.
I have no regrets for living here these past 3 years, and look forward to continuing my life with my children and husband as we start a new chapter. Our new chapter should be very interesting :)
Friday, September 6, 2013
Our First Fight... Wasn't Pretty...
Well in reality it was just an argument, but it didn't feel pretty. We have never fought up till this point, so it doesn't feel so nice! lol..
I have been married before, and I have to remember back over 15 years ago, but I remember our first year of marriage together as pure ...inferno ;) I remember it like it was yesterday. We had a huge power struggle.
This marriage is very different. So now you want to know what we fought over, right? Ok, I will tell you.
We are working on his papers to have him come to New York with me. It is time to come home now, and I'm not all that ready and neither is he, but we know it is best for us, and the kids. My oldest daughter though wants NOTHING to do with leaving. Even crying about selling things to go home. I can't store this stuff, I have no idea how long before we come back to visit. What does she think? I can just pay my rent here and keep everything where it is? Yeah.. not likely.
Anyway.. We had explicit instructions from the US Government of what papers to hand in. They said that they had to be translated and legalized.
I send my husband to run errands and I tell him step by step how his wife wants things carried out. Amor, please remember.. FIRST you go to the bank, and pay the fee. Ok.. He says.
I repeat myself.. please, make sure you go there and pay the fee.. Then you go to the place and you nonchalantly put it under their nose to put their stamp of approval on it. Don't ask them anything as that will just draw attention to it. Ok? Yes, Amor.
I get a phone call about a 1/2 hour later and I was thinking wow, the bank was QUICK.. no line I guess.. Well he says.. My love, I'm at my sisters house calling you. The paper you gave me has to be translated by a real translator.. (Uhm..It was done by a real translator) no.. It NEEDS to have a special stamp on it. What should I do? I said, how much? 1200 pesos each page. WHAT? Will it be legalized when its done? Yes! Well do it.. we don't have much time..
Feeling a little annoyed at this country on how they really don't have rules and regulations and NOW they do.. Whatever.. He comes back home about 1 hour later, empty handed.. This is where we argue..
"Amor, the paper? " I ask.
"Yes, it will be ready tomorrow by 4:30pm" He says nervously.
"All done? Legalized and everything?" I ask.
"Amor, the paper is already legalized." he responds.
*************blood starts to boil.....
"Yes, Amor, " I say.. "But the translation ALSO needs to be legalized TOO.. They are going to do that right?!?!"
"No." He says and looks away.
"WHAT?!?!?!" I say irritated.
"Amor, those forms never get legalized, they told me it is only the original form that needs to be legalized." is his response.
Blood boiling and I'm trying to hold my cool I say.. "Look.. There is no way that the United States of America's Embassy is going to force us to have if the Dominican Republic government does not do it!!!" I snap..
"Honey, please.. You will see you are confused." He suggests.
"WHAT?! Confused.. LOOK" I pull out the paper requirements. He's pretty proud of himself as he reads that all papers in spanish must be translated and the orignals must be inextensa and legalized." "You see" he says, "Only the originals."
Hiding the fact that I want to scream, I say "Continue reading."
He reads the last part.. and he's dead silent.
I am ready to freak out because now he SEES he is wrong..
"So now what?" i ask.
"They won't do it, I don't know what to do." He says.
"Where is the receipt showing that you paid the 660 pesos." I ask
"What receipt, my love?" He asks.
"WHAT RECEIPT?! YOU HAVE THE RECEIPT TO THE BANK RIGHT?!"
Ok I won't continue with this back and forth, but the point of it was.. I gave him explicit instructions in which he was so SURE that I was wrong. He didn't follow my instructions, instead he did it HIS way and it backfired on him. Not only that but it set us back a few days..
I did have him go back and fix everything, and the next day still not feeling well about everything, he jokingly tells his sister what happened. She told him, you ALWAYS do what your wife tells you to do.. HAHAHA.. I was surprised by her response. She then told him.. that way if it fails, at least it will be HER fault.
That's when I concluded.. "Yes and if it is my fault, I will say I'm sorry unlike your brother."
Long story short, he realized he forgot to own up to his mistake. I know I've got a great guy, and I love him to pieces. Things like this just bring us closer not further apart. I welcome thse disagreements as we learn from eachother.
I have been married before, and I have to remember back over 15 years ago, but I remember our first year of marriage together as pure ...inferno ;) I remember it like it was yesterday. We had a huge power struggle.
This marriage is very different. So now you want to know what we fought over, right? Ok, I will tell you.
We are working on his papers to have him come to New York with me. It is time to come home now, and I'm not all that ready and neither is he, but we know it is best for us, and the kids. My oldest daughter though wants NOTHING to do with leaving. Even crying about selling things to go home. I can't store this stuff, I have no idea how long before we come back to visit. What does she think? I can just pay my rent here and keep everything where it is? Yeah.. not likely.
Anyway.. We had explicit instructions from the US Government of what papers to hand in. They said that they had to be translated and legalized.
I send my husband to run errands and I tell him step by step how his wife wants things carried out. Amor, please remember.. FIRST you go to the bank, and pay the fee. Ok.. He says.
I repeat myself.. please, make sure you go there and pay the fee.. Then you go to the place and you nonchalantly put it under their nose to put their stamp of approval on it. Don't ask them anything as that will just draw attention to it. Ok? Yes, Amor.
I get a phone call about a 1/2 hour later and I was thinking wow, the bank was QUICK.. no line I guess.. Well he says.. My love, I'm at my sisters house calling you. The paper you gave me has to be translated by a real translator.. (Uhm..It was done by a real translator) no.. It NEEDS to have a special stamp on it. What should I do? I said, how much? 1200 pesos each page. WHAT? Will it be legalized when its done? Yes! Well do it.. we don't have much time..
Feeling a little annoyed at this country on how they really don't have rules and regulations and NOW they do.. Whatever.. He comes back home about 1 hour later, empty handed.. This is where we argue..
"Amor, the paper? " I ask.
"Yes, it will be ready tomorrow by 4:30pm" He says nervously.
"All done? Legalized and everything?" I ask.
"Amor, the paper is already legalized." he responds.
*************blood starts to boil.....
"Yes, Amor, " I say.. "But the translation ALSO needs to be legalized TOO.. They are going to do that right?!?!"
"No." He says and looks away.
"WHAT?!?!?!" I say irritated.
"Amor, those forms never get legalized, they told me it is only the original form that needs to be legalized." is his response.
Blood boiling and I'm trying to hold my cool I say.. "Look.. There is no way that the United States of America's Embassy is going to force us to have if the Dominican Republic government does not do it!!!" I snap..
"Honey, please.. You will see you are confused." He suggests.
"WHAT?! Confused.. LOOK" I pull out the paper requirements. He's pretty proud of himself as he reads that all papers in spanish must be translated and the orignals must be inextensa and legalized." "You see" he says, "Only the originals."
Hiding the fact that I want to scream, I say "Continue reading."
He reads the last part.. and he's dead silent.
I am ready to freak out because now he SEES he is wrong..
"So now what?" i ask.
"They won't do it, I don't know what to do." He says.
"Where is the receipt showing that you paid the 660 pesos." I ask
"What receipt, my love?" He asks.
"WHAT RECEIPT?! YOU HAVE THE RECEIPT TO THE BANK RIGHT?!"
Ok I won't continue with this back and forth, but the point of it was.. I gave him explicit instructions in which he was so SURE that I was wrong. He didn't follow my instructions, instead he did it HIS way and it backfired on him. Not only that but it set us back a few days..
I did have him go back and fix everything, and the next day still not feeling well about everything, he jokingly tells his sister what happened. She told him, you ALWAYS do what your wife tells you to do.. HAHAHA.. I was surprised by her response. She then told him.. that way if it fails, at least it will be HER fault.
That's when I concluded.. "Yes and if it is my fault, I will say I'm sorry unlike your brother."
Long story short, he realized he forgot to own up to his mistake. I know I've got a great guy, and I love him to pieces. Things like this just bring us closer not further apart. I welcome thse disagreements as we learn from eachother.
Tuesday, August 13, 2013
And a day....
a dollar sign is the cheesiest
My husband has this obsession now. He has always thought that he totally has solved the marriage issues people sometimes have. That would be for going to sleep angry. He said he could NEVER go to sleep angry, if he grew accustomed to hugging me, and praying together every night before bed.
Since the first night we lived together after being married, we have gone to sleep hugging one another, and then praying together. He says his prayers in Spanish, as I pray in English. We pray for our children, my parents, his parents, my siblings, his siblings, and then any other prayer requests we may have had. Right now we are going to a bible study. He goes to a men's bible study, and I go to a women's bible study. At my bible study we were given prayer requests from our prayer partners, so I had shared that with him. So now we both pray for Judith, my prayer partner.
After we say our amen's.. he will immediately say, turn over, I want to rub your back. The lucky girl that I am goes to sleep almost every night with a full body back massage. My husband isn't like most who start out in this full back massage and then given up. My husband goes from my head to my toes, and back up again. He continues that until he hears me snoring.
Tomorrow we will be married 6 months. For the entire 6 months he has been doing this. Except lastnight I got him. I waited for about 2 times, that he rubbed my head down to my toes, and I was growing sleepy but I fought back the tiredness. I then did the awful thing and pretended to snore.. as I pretended to snore, I noticed his hand grow lighter, as he started to pull away from me and heard him say, "I love you, and a day."
You see, I tell him always... I love you, forever and a day. He always repeats me. So now as I hear him say, "I love you, and a day." I tried digging deep within to hold back all my laughter... I tried to resist laughing and not let him know I was still awake..
Just then it came out...a huge snort, and tons of laughter.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA now feeling bad, I stopped in my tracks and he says... "What? What?" I surely couldn't tell him... but I couldn't lie to him either...
Amor, you just told you loved me and a day.. he said.... I do.... I said, but it's forever which means siempre and a day, which means y un dia... He said.. Yes, that's what I said.. Uhmm.. no, you didn't.. yes, I did.. Ok I heard you wrong.. sorry.. I said let me give you a back massage... he said, no, no.. I want you to sleep good... Once again he started massaging.. head to toe... The massage that took forever and a day....
I've decided I won't interrupt him anymore.. he told me he cannot sleep if he doesn't know that he put me to sleep.. lol.. I love this man!!
My husband has this obsession now. He has always thought that he totally has solved the marriage issues people sometimes have. That would be for going to sleep angry. He said he could NEVER go to sleep angry, if he grew accustomed to hugging me, and praying together every night before bed.
Since the first night we lived together after being married, we have gone to sleep hugging one another, and then praying together. He says his prayers in Spanish, as I pray in English. We pray for our children, my parents, his parents, my siblings, his siblings, and then any other prayer requests we may have had. Right now we are going to a bible study. He goes to a men's bible study, and I go to a women's bible study. At my bible study we were given prayer requests from our prayer partners, so I had shared that with him. So now we both pray for Judith, my prayer partner.
After we say our amen's.. he will immediately say, turn over, I want to rub your back. The lucky girl that I am goes to sleep almost every night with a full body back massage. My husband isn't like most who start out in this full back massage and then given up. My husband goes from my head to my toes, and back up again. He continues that until he hears me snoring.
Tomorrow we will be married 6 months. For the entire 6 months he has been doing this. Except lastnight I got him. I waited for about 2 times, that he rubbed my head down to my toes, and I was growing sleepy but I fought back the tiredness. I then did the awful thing and pretended to snore.. as I pretended to snore, I noticed his hand grow lighter, as he started to pull away from me and heard him say, "I love you, and a day."
You see, I tell him always... I love you, forever and a day. He always repeats me. So now as I hear him say, "I love you, and a day." I tried digging deep within to hold back all my laughter... I tried to resist laughing and not let him know I was still awake..
Just then it came out...a huge snort, and tons of laughter.. HAHAHAHAHAHAHA now feeling bad, I stopped in my tracks and he says... "What? What?" I surely couldn't tell him... but I couldn't lie to him either...
Amor, you just told you loved me and a day.. he said.... I do.... I said, but it's forever which means siempre and a day, which means y un dia... He said.. Yes, that's what I said.. Uhmm.. no, you didn't.. yes, I did.. Ok I heard you wrong.. sorry.. I said let me give you a back massage... he said, no, no.. I want you to sleep good... Once again he started massaging.. head to toe... The massage that took forever and a day....
I've decided I won't interrupt him anymore.. he told me he cannot sleep if he doesn't know that he put me to sleep.. lol.. I love this man!!
Wednesday, July 31, 2013
Makes Him Furious!
The one thing I've learned in 6 months is that my husband absolutely can not stand when kids do not respect their parents. I have seen it over and over, but something last night clicked.
My husband is constantly advising his nieces and nephews to love your parents, to respect them etc. He's often tells them they must listen to them etc.
My husband has all the patience in the world when it comes to my girls. He thinks they are just the cherry on top. He loves to show them off and tell everyone they are his, and my kids LOVE that kind of attention. They love to feel like we are all the same family unit. We are! Well my middle daughter loves to give her mom a run for her money around bedtime, EVERY NIGHT.
Each night our night ends the SAME way. Liliana, please listen to your mother. Liliana don't give your mom such a hard time, she loves and adores you. Liliana, you are such a beautiful little girl and you are acting very ugly. Liliana, do you know that in the bible you need to respect your mom and dad? Respect your mother. I almost get more tired of hearing him trying to talk her into it than I do her whining, crying, and complaining. (I've dealt with her for 9 years!!)
Anyway, Liliana says to me the other night. Mom, Papi is always happy unless anyone disrespects you. I said, yeah, so you don't keep him happy at night. She had a point. That night while laying in bed my mind wandered and I realized. She is right!! He is constantly telling them.
I spoke to him about it, and he said his mom is his world before I came into his life. She gave up her entire life to raise 5 kids. His father passed away when his baby brother was a toddler, so he feels like all the weight went onto her shoulders. He promised God if there was anyway he could ever help her he would. He said I made the same pact about you to God. I told God, Lord, this beautiful woman is a single mom to 4 children, if I could be apart of her life I will love, adore, and help her with her children and any chance I get to show them how to help her I will.
He sure has done this for me! What a love I've found!! <3
My husband is constantly advising his nieces and nephews to love your parents, to respect them etc. He's often tells them they must listen to them etc.
My husband has all the patience in the world when it comes to my girls. He thinks they are just the cherry on top. He loves to show them off and tell everyone they are his, and my kids LOVE that kind of attention. They love to feel like we are all the same family unit. We are! Well my middle daughter loves to give her mom a run for her money around bedtime, EVERY NIGHT.
Each night our night ends the SAME way. Liliana, please listen to your mother. Liliana don't give your mom such a hard time, she loves and adores you. Liliana, you are such a beautiful little girl and you are acting very ugly. Liliana, do you know that in the bible you need to respect your mom and dad? Respect your mother. I almost get more tired of hearing him trying to talk her into it than I do her whining, crying, and complaining. (I've dealt with her for 9 years!!)
Anyway, Liliana says to me the other night. Mom, Papi is always happy unless anyone disrespects you. I said, yeah, so you don't keep him happy at night. She had a point. That night while laying in bed my mind wandered and I realized. She is right!! He is constantly telling them.
I spoke to him about it, and he said his mom is his world before I came into his life. She gave up her entire life to raise 5 kids. His father passed away when his baby brother was a toddler, so he feels like all the weight went onto her shoulders. He promised God if there was anyway he could ever help her he would. He said I made the same pact about you to God. I told God, Lord, this beautiful woman is a single mom to 4 children, if I could be apart of her life I will love, adore, and help her with her children and any chance I get to show them how to help her I will.
He sure has done this for me! What a love I've found!! <3
Friday, July 26, 2013
Bear With Me...
Hey I will be changing my blog over to wordpress and when I do I think you will see a lot more posts. I am going to work on a new project with the kids.
My oldest daughter Lidia is addicted to youtube videos. I have a kids filter on her computer so I know what she is searching for, but she's a good kid. She loves watching the daily videos people put up. Are you familiar with them? She would like to have us try as a family to video blog (Vlog) daily for 1 month and see if its something we can do for awhile.
Actually I poo-poo'd it at first. Then I got thinking about how people LOVE reality TV, and well.. There is no such show about living in the Dominican Republic :)
I figured I could VLOG about differences here. Things that I love, and other things that aren't so loved :)
Stay tuned and you might see a little more into my life. As if I have time for this.. lol.. No, this will be like 10 minutes a day, cause Lidia will edit the videos and put them up.. Will be part of her homeschool projects :) She can learn a lot from this and teach her sisters. It will also hold me accountable for a lot of things.. :)
Stay tuned ;)
My oldest daughter Lidia is addicted to youtube videos. I have a kids filter on her computer so I know what she is searching for, but she's a good kid. She loves watching the daily videos people put up. Are you familiar with them? She would like to have us try as a family to video blog (Vlog) daily for 1 month and see if its something we can do for awhile.
Actually I poo-poo'd it at first. Then I got thinking about how people LOVE reality TV, and well.. There is no such show about living in the Dominican Republic :)
I figured I could VLOG about differences here. Things that I love, and other things that aren't so loved :)
Stay tuned and you might see a little more into my life. As if I have time for this.. lol.. No, this will be like 10 minutes a day, cause Lidia will edit the videos and put them up.. Will be part of her homeschool projects :) She can learn a lot from this and teach her sisters. It will also hold me accountable for a lot of things.. :)
Stay tuned ;)
Monday, July 15, 2013
Rubbing Off on the Kids
If you have visited my home since I've been married, you will know that my husband calls me his Queen. Sounds so silly in English to me, but in Spanish it's so sweet. Mi Reina. Sometimes he calls me his Doll. Usually if he is asking someone where I am. And my doll, have you sen her is what he will say! So swet.
A man who has been a bachelor for over 40 years really adjusted AWESOMELY to the married life. We laugh cause in the beginning he had a few embarrassing moments. Not used to calling someone my love all the time so a few times he got in odd situations. Like when he got off the motortaxi (concho) and said. Thanks my love! hahaha.. We were laughing as he tried to cover up and say something else. Or when he slips and calls his mother my love, etc.. Since the first month of marriage there hasn't been so many mess ups..
Speaking of changes and mess ups, I am truly amazed at something. He was so used to always having the seat up when he was done cause he lived alone for so many years that I NEVER thought we'd break him of the habit but I told him anyway. I said.. My love, me and the girls are NOT used to going into the bathroom and finding the seat up. He said, Really? I said yeah. He said, Your ex never kept the seat up? I said no.. He said, "Ok, no problem, I can put it down." never again has it been left up! How awesome is this man?! haha
My husband will follow me around with the fan. Everywhere I go he will pop up with the fan for me. I've gotten rather used to it and spoiled. He will even assess the situation and check for the best place to put it. He's got all kinds of strategies.
Lastnight, my husband said Doll, I'm going to take your fan for a 1/2 hour ok? I said sure. I had just gottten out of the shower, and wasn't hot. I was fine. He wanted to use the fan to dry some clothes that he had washed and the sun wasn't out.
About 5 minutes later the fan is faced at me and I giggle, as I turn around it's my middle daughter!! Mom, I don't want you to sweat, is this good? She gave me her fan!! What a sweetheart!! She then got a lecture from Cacique...EXCELLENT JOB!! That's what I'm always telling you, he says to her. You need to always make sure you treat your mother like a queen! -- It is definitely rubbing off on the kids!!
One last thing about the fan. I moved out of the zone tonight and was guarding the door while the kids were going to sleep. (They were arguing about who was moving the bed, etc..) As I'm in the doorway I had to laugh as my husband put the fan in the hallway to make sure it was facing me!!! He's so hysterical!!! :) <3
A man who has been a bachelor for over 40 years really adjusted AWESOMELY to the married life. We laugh cause in the beginning he had a few embarrassing moments. Not used to calling someone my love all the time so a few times he got in odd situations. Like when he got off the motortaxi (concho) and said. Thanks my love! hahaha.. We were laughing as he tried to cover up and say something else. Or when he slips and calls his mother my love, etc.. Since the first month of marriage there hasn't been so many mess ups..
Speaking of changes and mess ups, I am truly amazed at something. He was so used to always having the seat up when he was done cause he lived alone for so many years that I NEVER thought we'd break him of the habit but I told him anyway. I said.. My love, me and the girls are NOT used to going into the bathroom and finding the seat up. He said, Really? I said yeah. He said, Your ex never kept the seat up? I said no.. He said, "Ok, no problem, I can put it down." never again has it been left up! How awesome is this man?! haha
My husband will follow me around with the fan. Everywhere I go he will pop up with the fan for me. I've gotten rather used to it and spoiled. He will even assess the situation and check for the best place to put it. He's got all kinds of strategies.
Lastnight, my husband said Doll, I'm going to take your fan for a 1/2 hour ok? I said sure. I had just gottten out of the shower, and wasn't hot. I was fine. He wanted to use the fan to dry some clothes that he had washed and the sun wasn't out.
About 5 minutes later the fan is faced at me and I giggle, as I turn around it's my middle daughter!! Mom, I don't want you to sweat, is this good? She gave me her fan!! What a sweetheart!! She then got a lecture from Cacique...EXCELLENT JOB!! That's what I'm always telling you, he says to her. You need to always make sure you treat your mother like a queen! -- It is definitely rubbing off on the kids!!
One last thing about the fan. I moved out of the zone tonight and was guarding the door while the kids were going to sleep. (They were arguing about who was moving the bed, etc..) As I'm in the doorway I had to laugh as my husband put the fan in the hallway to make sure it was facing me!!! He's so hysterical!!! :) <3
Saturday, July 13, 2013
I have a Maid -- Don't Judge
I live in a 3rd world country or as many people like to say, it's NOT 3rd world it's a developing nation! Yes it is, but the one thing I LOVE about here is that services are VERY cheap. To give you an idea, of prices you can get your nails done with acrylics, or any other (fiberglass or gel) for about 7-8 dollars! That is awesome.. In NY you can get them done cheaply for $25, up to $50 and even more for gels and stuff.
Another service that is very cheap is to hire someone to work in your home. They will cook, clean, and take care of your kids or do whatever you want them to do. Most will iron the family's clothes daily. We aren't stuck up enough to have her iron our clothes for us. lol. Nah we just are a simple family in which we wear and go.
So I will not only miss this:
I will also miss my maid!! What? Don't judge me! It's cheap here, and if you had the chance you would do it too, admit it!!
I have a friend who has said to me a few times in conversation that she can't have a maid here because she has to be the wife and show her man she takes care of the house and cooks. Many Dominican men may feel that way about a woman. I am so fortunate because my husband doesn't feel that way at all. When he was younger his mom had 2 servants also! That's how him and his sisters grew up! Unfortunately his father passed away at a VERY young age, and left the family with very little. When it ran out my husband had to pick up the slack. He worked his butt off to save his mother's house and put food on the table. His sisters learned to cook and clean and his mom worked as well as helped with the house. So my husband LOVES that we can afford a maid. He wants me to be treated like a queen that I am. *smile*
One more thing is I work full-time, go to college online, and homeschool 3 kids. I think I deserve a maid :) . My husband agrees. My husband makes a hefty income here for a Dominican man, so it's not a big thing. His mother on the other hand hates that we have so many expenses. She tells my husband he needs to get rid of the maid and cook for me and teach the kids to clean. My husband is awesome with helping me to teach the kids that when they take something out, they need to put it back.
Another good friend and I were talking about having maids. She and her husband chose to not get a maid as it may not be good for the kids to think others should pick up for them, or cook.. well that's not really how the conversation went but I can't put it into words. What she said TOTALLY makes sense, but my time has always been limited here, so there are plenty more years to teach the girls that we need to take care of our stuff, etc. I totally agree with this friend and her husband (They are awesome) but their move here is pretty permanent well as of now.. Ok, ok.. So I know I have a lot of reteaching to do with the kids.. lol
Actually my oldest daughter can make a lot of Dominican dishes, so she will cook, and I will clean.. arghhh... maybe not ;)
Another service that is very cheap is to hire someone to work in your home. They will cook, clean, and take care of your kids or do whatever you want them to do. Most will iron the family's clothes daily. We aren't stuck up enough to have her iron our clothes for us. lol. Nah we just are a simple family in which we wear and go.
So I will not only miss this:
I have a friend who has said to me a few times in conversation that she can't have a maid here because she has to be the wife and show her man she takes care of the house and cooks. Many Dominican men may feel that way about a woman. I am so fortunate because my husband doesn't feel that way at all. When he was younger his mom had 2 servants also! That's how him and his sisters grew up! Unfortunately his father passed away at a VERY young age, and left the family with very little. When it ran out my husband had to pick up the slack. He worked his butt off to save his mother's house and put food on the table. His sisters learned to cook and clean and his mom worked as well as helped with the house. So my husband LOVES that we can afford a maid. He wants me to be treated like a queen that I am. *smile*
One more thing is I work full-time, go to college online, and homeschool 3 kids. I think I deserve a maid :) . My husband agrees. My husband makes a hefty income here for a Dominican man, so it's not a big thing. His mother on the other hand hates that we have so many expenses. She tells my husband he needs to get rid of the maid and cook for me and teach the kids to clean. My husband is awesome with helping me to teach the kids that when they take something out, they need to put it back.
Another good friend and I were talking about having maids. She and her husband chose to not get a maid as it may not be good for the kids to think others should pick up for them, or cook.. well that's not really how the conversation went but I can't put it into words. What she said TOTALLY makes sense, but my time has always been limited here, so there are plenty more years to teach the girls that we need to take care of our stuff, etc. I totally agree with this friend and her husband (They are awesome) but their move here is pretty permanent well as of now.. Ok, ok.. So I know I have a lot of reteaching to do with the kids.. lol
Actually my oldest daughter can make a lot of Dominican dishes, so she will cook, and I will clean.. arghhh... maybe not ;)
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