Our First Fight... Wasn't Pretty...

Well in reality it was just an argument, but it didn't feel pretty.  We have never fought up till this point, so it doesn't feel so nice! lol..

I have been married before, and I have to remember back over 15 years ago, but I remember our first year of marriage together as pure ...inferno ;)  I remember it like it was yesterday.  We had a huge power struggle.

This marriage is very different.  So now you want to know what we fought over, right? Ok, I will tell you.

We are working on his papers to have him come to New York with me.  It is time to come home now, and I'm not all that ready and neither is he, but we know it is best for us, and the kids.  My oldest daughter though wants NOTHING to do with leaving.  Even crying about selling things to go home.  I can't store this stuff, I have no idea how long before we come back to visit.  What does she think? I can just pay my rent here and keep everything where it is? Yeah.. not likely.

Anyway.. We had explicit instructions from the US Government of what papers to hand in.  They said that they had to be translated and legalized. 

I send my husband to run errands and I tell him step by step how his wife wants things carried out.  Amor, please remember.. FIRST you go to the bank, and pay the fee.  Ok.. He says. 

I repeat myself.. please, make sure you go there and pay the fee.. Then you go to the place and you nonchalantly put it under their nose to put their stamp of approval on it.  Don't ask them anything as that will just draw attention to it.  Ok? Yes, Amor.

I get a phone call about a 1/2 hour later and I was thinking wow, the bank was QUICK.. no line I guess.. Well he says.. My love, I'm at my sisters house calling you.  The paper you gave me has to be translated by a real translator.. (Uhm..It was done by a real translator) no.. It NEEDS to have a special stamp on it.  What should I do? I said, how much? 1200 pesos each page. WHAT? Will it be legalized when its done? Yes! Well do it.. we don't have much time..

Feeling a little annoyed at this country on how they really don't have rules and regulations and NOW they do.. Whatever.. He comes back home about 1 hour later, empty handed.. This is where we argue..

"Amor, the paper? " I ask.
"Yes, it will be ready tomorrow by 4:30pm" He says nervously.
"All done? Legalized and everything?" I ask.
"Amor, the paper is already legalized." he responds.
*************blood starts to boil.....
"Yes, Amor, " I say.. "But the translation ALSO needs to be legalized TOO.. They are going to do that right?!?!"
"No." He says and looks away.
"WHAT?!?!?!" I say irritated.
"Amor, those forms never get legalized, they told me it is only the original form that needs to be legalized." is his response.
Blood boiling and I'm trying to hold my cool I say.. "Look.. There is no way that the United States of America's Embassy is going to force us to have if the Dominican Republic government does not do it!!!" I snap..

"Honey, please.. You will see you are confused." He suggests.
"WHAT?! Confused.. LOOK" I pull out the paper requirements.  He's pretty proud of himself as he reads that all papers in spanish must be translated and the orignals must be inextensa and legalized." "You see" he says, "Only the originals."
Hiding the fact that I want to scream, I say "Continue reading."
He reads the last part.. and he's dead silent.

I am ready to freak out because now he SEES he is wrong..

"So now what?" i ask.
"They won't do it, I don't know what to do." He says.
"Where is the receipt showing that you paid the 660 pesos." I ask
"What receipt, my love?" He asks.

"WHAT RECEIPT?! YOU HAVE THE RECEIPT TO THE BANK RIGHT?!"

Ok I won't continue with this back and forth, but the point of it was.. I gave him explicit instructions in which he was so SURE that I was wrong.  He didn't follow my instructions, instead he did it HIS way and it backfired on him.  Not only that but it set us back a few days..

I did have him go back and fix everything, and the next day still not feeling well about everything, he jokingly tells his sister what happened.  She told him, you ALWAYS do what your wife tells you to do.. HAHAHA..  I was surprised by her response.  She then told him.. that way if it fails, at least it will be HER fault.

That's when I concluded.. "Yes and if it is my fault, I will say I'm sorry unlike your brother."

Long story short, he realized he forgot to own up to his mistake.  I know I've got a great guy, and I love him to pieces.  Things like this just bring us closer not further apart.  I welcome thse disagreements as we learn from eachother.