I Want To Be Angry

I think I have every right to be angry at my husband!  Gosh if my mom reads this post she is really going to kill me. 

Look, my husband worked his butt off when he was younger because his father died at a very young age.  He left his mother with a lot of bills and nothing to pay them.  My husband took on the family responsibility when he was like 12 or 15.  He asked to borrow a motorcycle from a neighbor and he started offering people rides for a few pesos. 

He gave his money to his mother and saved a percentage of it.  That what he saved he bought his own motorcycle.  He did this over and over and moved to bigger and better things and finally bought a public van in which he carted people around for more money then he did on the motorcycle and he could fit 16 people in the van.. (yeah think minivan.. lol) My husband is a VERY hardworker! 

Long story short, he works very hard for his money.  He has never only worked for himself he's always worked and supported his mother and a sister who has a tough time.  They now know that he's got his own family and nobody expects anything from him.  Anyway.. His car he worked VERY hard for.  Something he loves. 

He wants to pay for his own visa because its a very expensive process.   I am all for him paying it but feel bad that he will have to sell his car.  I can make more money working from here, then he can so I'd rather work hard and pay it.. He will NOT have it.  So we decided it was time to sell the car.  I never realized something about my husband but he's a VERY impatient person.  How the HECK did he stay single for all these years waiting on God? Anyway.  We spoke about selling the car, he talked to the Watchman outside who guards our place.  The Watchman went and found a buyer.  Typical here in the DR cause they KNOW they will make a little something if they find the buyer.

So the guy wants the car. Totally in-love with the car.  But he feels its not worth what we are asking.  Ok I am going to save you the gory details and just tell you the short version.  My husband wants this car sold YESTERDAY that he is basically GIVING it away.  He's giving it to this guy for an entire $1,000 less than what we originally wanted.. Well a $1200. less than what we originally agreed on.  I told him, it's your car do what you want EXCEPT.. the guys offer, I said to my husband.. If you REALLY want to accept it (Which he does) I said add $25.00 to that price to pay the watchman!!!! He agreed.

The Watchman called his friend and said to him the price that I told him, and the guy said no.  The watchman said Look let's not fight over $25 come pick up the car tomorrow at 1pm its yours.  My husband AGREED!!!!!!!!!!!!

I realize it's ONLY $25. but now I am shaving another 1,000 pesos ($25) off the price.  My husband worked hard for this car and he's giving it away.  I am mad.. well.. I am mad, but I can't be mad at my husband.. I'm just mad in general..

So I came into the house as he stayed outside "walking" the dogs.  I know he remained out there because I was "mad" lol.   My maid was in the house making our dinner, and I told her the story.  She got really angry and said.. "NO! He can't do that!" I said I know but he just wants this car sold.  Selling this car at $50 would make my husband happy.. he wants it gone.. She said "wow, that guy ripped you off" I agreed... Stewing even more as she spoke.

I walked into the bedroom, and my husband came into the house with the dogs.  I stayed in the bedroom, and it was like all my anger disappeared.  My husband had his head down, knowing I was angry, and when I saw him, I couldn't DARE give him the cold shoulder.  I went to him and hugged him.

So yeah, 4 months of living together and spending every waking moment together (both working from home) and STILL no fights.  I can't do it! Just ain't going to happen.

Lidia today told me, "Mom, you are the happiest I've ever seen you with anyone.." I thought that was odd, because I thought I was happy before... but she said.. "I mean you guys have never fought..he keeps you happy!" I giggled knowing what she mean and knowing she was right.  I also know that my attitude has changed being with this "good guy".. :)