Biological is Nothing

Something right now that is very clear to me is the parents that aren't biological but take on someone elses responsibility totally are out of this world awesome!!

My husband is first to be mentioned because this is his blog.  Well it's mine, but its about him. He loves my girls as if they were his own, and he protects and cares for them like nobody else.  He's very cautious with them.  Also the way he treats my kids means the most to my kids, and they would tell you that!!

When I was born, my sister's father was asked by my mother to be my "father".  My biological father couldn't be a father.  Didn't want to be a father, etc.  My mom put away her pride and asked him if he'd step up to the plate, and he totally did.  He played along.  Not only did he "play" along, but his siblings, and parents did too!!!  I got an amazing aunt out of the deal, grand parents, and uncles!

My "father" lived in Florida and I grew up in New York.  Whenever he came to visit my sisters, he would come and visit me.  Whenever he bought clothes for my sisters for school, or take them places he brought me. 

I am so fortunate that I've enjoyed writing my entire life.  When I found out he was not my biological dad and really he was just pretending to be for my benefit I sat down and poured my heart out into a letter.  I remember bringing that letter to the mailbox, and I remember as I waited each day.  He did call me to tell me he got the "beautiful" letter and he loved me like I was his own.  I believed he did.  He was remarried when he found out my mom had me.  I was about 4 years of age.  His wife wasn't great at the game of pretend.  I don't blame her, as I'm sure it would be hard for most women to agree to allowing their husband to fake being a child that wasn't theirs. 

Over a year ago, my father passed away.  I am still very sad over his death.  I feel he died a lonely death, and wish I could make sure he knew that I loved him.  I know he knows I was thankful, but I wish I could have that one more chance to tell him I loved him.  I'm sure my sisters wish they had the chance too. His death was unexpected and nobody had known he was sick. 

My husband's uncle also fathers a child that isn't his.  It's a beautiful relationship they have! It's amazing how step parents and even people who aren't even step parents can take on such a responsibility of loving someone elses child but biological parents sometimes aren't as good at it.  Especially biodads who are no longer with the mother.  It's a shame!

Either way.. Rest in Peace, Dad!  <3 Love you!  I am PROUD to be a Moschiano :)