Deadbeat Awareness Day

Today in the United States they are celebrating Father's Day!  This is a very special Day to many father's out there.  I was going down my newsfeed on my facebook and it made me wonder about all the deadbeats out there.  I mean, I have over 600 friends on my facebook, and I can't believe out of 600 friends I don't have ONE "father" on my feed that would fall into the dead beat category!!!

I've had some amazing men in my life.  I had two stepfathers who were out of this world.  One who wasn't really a stepfather, but still was a "father" to me.  I had an uncle when I was younger who used to be my fill-in father, etc.  And now I have the most amazing hubby that is awesome with the kids.

But I've also seen my deal of deadbeat dads.  Whether they are ex husbands, baby da-da's or my own biological father.  Either way they are men who need to be recognized too!! It takes a very special kind of man (and it seems there are many in this world) to make false promises, not show up when they are scheduled or told the child, etc.

There are THREE types of deadbeats.

1.  The type that pays their child support therefore in their own eyes they are Worlds #1 Daddy.  Yes, their money automatically gets withdrawn from their pay, therefore they are #1 Dad.  These deadbeats stop at that though.  They may come around once in awhile, or never.  They are in a league of their own!

2.  Another type of deadbeat is the ones who don't pay child support but come around and pretend they are #1 daddy too.  Come on, let's get with it.  These women are doing THEIR work on supporting THEIR child(ren) and they get the fun of playing with their kids.  This is better than nothing, and maybe not the WORST deadbeat dad, but still a deadbeat, GET OUT AND WORK ALREADY.

3.  Deadbeats who use their children to try and hurt their ex.  They think their money is used to support the mom and don't realize the PRICE a child costs.  I can assure you that whatever you pay in childsupport it does NOT cover 1/2 of that child's costs.  The woman did NOT bring that child into this world alone.  Yet they are raising them alone.  These deadbeats fight over what the mom does with the money, will say they are going to do x, y, and z, and never come through.  They also will get the kid in their custody and badmouth the mom.  The best is when they won't help with the care of the child.  You know, mom has an interview, appointment, whatever and Dad is off from work and says yes, or will flat out refuse.. either way it doesn't  pan out.  These are TRUE deadbeat dads.

Look being a father is truly a gift, a privilege and NOT something men should take for granted!  Deadbeats are among us, and there are MANY.  We need to pull the cover from them and show off who they are because there are women who are pulling ALL the weight for their actions and it is NOT fair.

Today IS father's day.  I hope all the REAL fathers who do NOT fall anywhere near these 3 categories have an amazing father's day.  It's not easy being a parent, but you are doing an amazing job if your job is to make your child first, or make them have an amazing life.  God bless those men who are truly amazing fathers.

To the deadbeats out there.  You may think you are quietly keeping your cover...one day it will be blown and EVERYONE WILL KNOW what a loser you are!! :)

WOMEN IF YOU KNOW A DEADBEAT, COMMENT HERE AND LEAVE THEM A LOVELY MESSAGE!! :) BLOW THEIR COVERS :)